Ask a more experienced dominatrix to be your mentor. This is not necessary if you are role-playing with your partner, although you may find tips from videos or books to be helpful with them as well. If you really want to become a dominatrix, meeting someone who can show you the ropes can be very helpful. Your tutor will tell you how to defend yourself, how to negotiate the conditions and even teach you some behavioral techniques. Learn oral communication. A big part of being a dominatrix involves action, but what you say and how you say it are just as important. Learn to demand and speak confidently. It may seem funny at first, but with time you will get used to it. Watch videos of other female leads if you want to get an idea of how they interact with subscribers. Verbal play is a very important part of dominance. You must be comfortable with your subordinate's orders and tell him exactly what to do and when. Make a plan for your time as a Dominant. Being a dominatrix requires the ability to role play. Find a pattern to keep your game from getting stuck. Develop a plan of action and follow it so that you feel natural in your chosen role. You can watch other female domination videos for ideas. Ask your partner if he has any specific wishes. Add these wishes to your action plan Buy supplies and learn how to use them. Accessories are a big part of BDSM. Talk to your partner about what equipment they are interested in and keep them on hand. Popular BDSM accessories include: to whip blindfold to hit ropes, handcuffs. If you can't buy accessories, use improvised items. For example, you can use a belt, a silk tie or scarf, or a sleep mask. Just make sure your partner doesn't mind if these items belong to him Practice using accessories before using them with your partner. It takes a little practice to get them right. For example, you should try using a whip to inflict the desired level of pain on your partner without damaging their skin. Get to know the accessories and try them out before they reach their full potential. Do not use too much force. If you get carried away, there is a high probability of causing injury to a person